Make a New Agreement with yourself this New Year

Happy New Year! It’s that time of year again when we all start talking about New Years resolutions, new beginnings, and the year ahead. We make promises to ourself about what we want to change this year and what we want to achieve.

In the run up to Christmas I started to really think about this, I wanted to make additional positive changes for the New Year that would reduce my stress and bring me even more happiness and peace!

As I opened my presents I found the most amazing book waiting for me… It was called The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz. Could this simple and beautiful little book be the answer to my prayers…? the back cover promised that I would find ‘An inspiring book with many great lessons’….it sounded perfect! I was not disappointed, this wonderful little book did indeed offer great insights, wisdom and lessons.


Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one agreement you can completely transform your life.


Your best is going to change from moment to moment, it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstances, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgement, self-abuse and regret.

I have been practising these four agreements for the past few weeks and I can honestly say it has been life changing. Its early days but so far I feel much more positive about every area of my life.

I have failed a few times and slipped back into my old ways but because I am DOING MY BEST I am not judging myself. I am learning to speak more positively, to not take things so personally, to communicate more clearly, and to be kinder to myself!

I would highly recommend this book and the principles it contains to everyone, regardless of religious or spiritual beliefs. Being kind to yourself and others and doing your best are maybe the best New Years Resolution I have ever heard!

The almost ‘childlike simplicity of these four teachings left me feeling positive and excited about the year ahead and I wanted to share them with you….


Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.


Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, there own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won’t be the victim of needless suffering.

Jessi Carrera-Maybury of Charmed Healing Therapies.

A Reiki Master Teacher with over 10 years experience, offering Reiki Treatments, Couples Reiki and Reiki Attunements  to all levels from Beginner to Master.

Centro Dharma, Trapiche and Rebeccah Curtis Beauty and Wellness Centre, Torrox Costa